Last updated on November 19th, 2023 at 12:18 am
When you become a parent so many things change physically, mentally and emotionally. I can’t say how it is to become a father but motherhood is hard work. It is true the benefits far out weigh the challenges and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
There are days when you have the best interactions, conversations, and simple ordinary memorable moments with your child. Those are the days you want to cherish forever, hold in your memory as they grow up so fast and it will happen less and less. In motherhood, these are the best days and you wish and hope for them each day. The love you feel when your child giggles or runs to you open armed, shouting, “Momm–y” is blissful. Or a proud moment that they have accomplished something as little as writing the letter, “A” on a piece of paper. There are so many joys, happiness, and happy tears shed along the way.
This is motherhood. 
There is another side to motherhood. The ones we all never want to experience but unfortunately many, and most have or will in their child’s lifetime. A hospital visit. In a blink of an eye (no pun intended) your experiencing a blissful game of yogurt clapping at the table and the next you are shaking like a leaf, holding your child in a rush to the emergency room. These are the challenges. You no longer can be afraid of blood. You no longer are a person allowed to cry or show emotion for fear to scare your little one who is in pain and scared. You have to suck it up as a mother. You have to be the strong one and pretend it’s only a scratch or that the nurses are the happy people that help Doc McStuffins out in her clinic. These are the times emotion over takes you inside and you think the very worse has happened when in reality it will all be ok in the end. You can’t see that far ahead when you are empathizing with your child. You feel their pain and their every cry. It’s a slow torture to see them in pain.
This is motherhood. 
What amazes me so much about becoming a parent is how much you would do for them to protect them from every bump, scrape, and pain. That they are in fact the strong ones holding you together. After a long night in the emergency room with Missy Moo who had cut her eye open on the tv unit, I realized this. She is stronger than me. She is the tough one. She was consoling me with her smiles and cuddles while we waited for the doctors. Even though I knew it wasn’t life threatening I knew she was in pain, so I was in pain with her. I wanted her to know it would all be ok, but she did that all on her own. After medicine long had kicked in, she was up flirting with the other patients waiting to be seen and running around laughing while her eye continued to bleed. I sat there amazed at how strong kids are, how easily they adapt to a situation and how as parents we do the quite opposite. We worry. Will it scar? How will I keep it clean? We go into overdrive and analyzing the situation. How to prevent it happening again? The endless questions in our head before we even see the doctor who will quickly reassure you it’s fine, she is fine, it will be fine.
This is motherhood. 
There is so many experiences to be had as a parent. Motherhood has definitely changed me. While I was full of emotions over a little incident with my youngest this weekend it got me thinking about how powerful our love is for our children and quickly things can go from a beautiful day playing together to an accident. In motherhood you never know what is coming your way, and you can never be prepared for it all. Those are the challenges in an otherwise amazing adventure as a parent.
Missy Moo is doing fine and back to her normal playful self, glued eye and all. The smiles are back and her running around to my new found game of chase and make sure she doesn’t reopen her eye cut. She is loving the extra attention while I sit on pins and needles hoping it heals quickly before her older brother wrestles with her next. That’s life. There will be bumps along the way we have had our fare share with Buba already so you would think I could handle it. Every incident is a new experience with the same child or not.
This is motherhood.
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Motherhood for sure. I have a few moments like this with my little ones. It’s so scary isn’t it. Yve’s fell over around this age and split her lip open quite bad, then another time she caught a bug where she looked lifeless and limp – it puts the fear in you, to see your child suffering out of your control. Halle had suspected meningitis when she was this age, but turned out to be a viral thing. It just really puts life into perspective at how quickly one single event can change things. Life can be snatched away as soon as it’s given to us, so to cherish and embrace it all is the best option I think. So glad MM is on the mend xxxxx
Oh Natalie you are so right. It’s so true how fast things can change. It happened a few life changing things with Buba and we are no strangers to the er with him but each time it happens the fear is right there making us all emotional and scared for them. Motherhood blissful and painful all at the same time.
Oh my goodness poor Missy Moo and big hugs for you. It’s such a horrible feeling knowing there in pain, you couldn’t prevent it and you can’t stop it now. Elma managed to split her lip on a toy last summer and I remember sitting on the floor of A&E cuddling her in my lap and wishing desperately to make it better.
Oh thanks Carie. I know the fear is in us at the time. It’s so hard not to burst into tears for them. Bless. She is ok now and hopefully it will heal fine. Moments like that you are thankfully it wasn’t worse.
Sending so much love to you and missy moo. Hope she’s well on the way to being mended xx
Thank you Alice hunny she is doing ok. It will take awhile to heal I think. Just hoping it doesn’t scar.
Her poor eye 🙁 Children heal quickly and I am sure it will hardly be noticeable in a week or two. LP broke her leg at 15 months whilst at the childminder and I have never felt so guilty and so much pain myself at what she had to go through. It healed well and since then she has had a split lip which still has a noticeable scar and many grazes on her chin and knees. I think we will always feel their pain. That is definitely motherhood! x
Ahh bless her cotton socks. Oh dear it’s even worse when things happen out of your sight. I can’t imagine bless you. It’s different motherhood but all a part of growing up with bumps and scrapes. I have many myself from youth. Lol
I often refer to the tough times as parenting at the sharp end… and it is always a refreshing reminder to appreciate all those little moments and memories in between. I’m so sorry that little Missy Moo hurt herself, but I’m glad she’s being a brave little trooper about it. You are a fantastic mommy, and you can never predict how you are going to feel when these things happen. She knows she has the best of mommies, which is why she was giving you all those smiles, to let you know she was okay. x
Oh thanks Lucy. It’s funny in hinds sight it wasn’t life threatening but it’s never easy seeing your baby in pain. I get all emotional about it. No we can’t predict anything with kids but we sure try don’t we? Love that you call it the sharp end of parenting.
Ouch! What a drama for you all! So glad she’s ok and it wasn’t life-threatening. Still, parenting is never easy is it?! At least your little trooper took it in her stride! Hoping you have a more peaceful stress-free week this week! x
Thanks hunny. Yes me too. She is healing good though. Babies are amazing at what they can heal from as adults it takes us so much longer. She is stronger than I. I was in pieces for her. Bless.
Oh my goodness, poor Missy Moo, and poor you having to rush her to the emergency room. Motherhood is so full of ups and downs and it can be really challenging to stay strong and calm for them when we can see they’re in so much pain. I’m glad she’s back to being full of smiles 🙂 x
Thanks Jess it was more traumatic for mommy then baby. lol Always is isn’t it? Motherhood definitely challenges us. She is healing good and such a trooper.
Aww, poor thing 🙁 I hope she will get better soon, that must have been an almighty bang! Kids are surprisingly resilient and seem to just bounce, and even if they are in pain they seem to try to look on the brighter side all the time. There is much to learn from that as adults…
Love the matching hats btw! #theordinarymoments
Thanks hunny. Oh you are so right. They really are tough cookies. It’s the parents that are all emotional and hung up on it. Hahaha running around her trying to protect her now is tough work. Hahaha
It must have been so horrible to have all that with Missy Moo- I can’t imagine how scary it must have been especially cause it was near her eye. It sounds a horrible ordeal. But you are right. They are usually the stronger ones- and within a moment it’s forgotten, However for the parents it usually scars a lot worse inside. It’s so hard sometimes, this motherhood malarkey.
A beautiful post Jenny, I swear sometimes we think in exactly the same way. xx
Ahhh thanks Katie. Yes way harder for us for sure. She is already healing and back to herself not a care in the world while I sit here chasing her making sure she isn’t falling again. Lol great minds think alike. Haha
It must have been such a scary experience when MM hurt herself and you had to go to A&E. I think I would have been in pieces. I’m glad that she’s doing better now. And I love that you have taken your boy’s hat to match with MM. 🙂 #ordinarymoments
Hahaha sadly my sons hat fits my head better than his so it’s my hat now. MM wanted me to wear it lol she is a trooper and already healing better than I expected. Amazing how quick kids can bounce back. Thanks hunny. It was scary for me I should be used to it with Buba and his numerous hospital visits but never gets easy.
Oh goodness, that must have been terrifying for you. I’m glad she’s all glued up and recovering well 🙂
I’ve been quite overwhelmed over the years by children’s resilience in the face of adversity, they are tough little cookies and it really is quite humbling x
awww poor little chick!! She was very brave and i’m glad to hear shes on the mend! Times like that are so scary, touch wood we’ve not had any hospital trips for about a yr but we had a couple of months of little miss accident prone and it was awful, I was surprised how quickly instinct kicks in and you just get on and deal with it all.
Being a mum is such a challenge, sometimes it only seems to ever be challenges but your so right in focusing on all of the wonderful things that happen in between and the joys certainly do make it worth it..how quickly you can forget a tricky morning when something great happens!
Thanks Mary. Exactly. It’s crazy how much you feel their pain and how much their smiles and cuddles can also comfort us as the parent as much as it does to them in that moment. It’s definitely all worth it.
Oh gosh it must have been so scary but you’re so right, you have to stay calm and not them see the fear you immediately feel. Your little brave trouper looks like such a brave little girl, smiling away there 🙂 Hope it heals super quick, which I’m sure it will as kids bounce back so quickly. A few months back z started bleeding from one eye randomly and we absolutely cacked it and rushed to A&E. He was right as rain as soon as we got there and was bouncing about. Whilst we had our hearts in our mouths! 🙂
They do love to give us a good fright don’t they. Awww our hearts in our mouth even though we know it’s not life threatening bless. They just truck on like normal. It was scary as I thought it was her eye sight. Luckily just missed the actual eye.
Aww I hope she is ok- sounds like she was a brave little trooper. You’re right, children show such great courage and bounce back so well. You’ve totally summed up motherhood in this post- very thought provoking indeed.
Amelia x
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Thanks hunny. Oh yes they keep us on or toes but most of the time it’s lovely. Those accidents hopefully will be few and far between. Buba is great at watching out for her.
Oh my gosh Jenny, how scary that must have been for you! It’s horrible seeing your child hurt or in pain but when they have accidents like this; it’s a whole other level of emotional. I’m glad she is doing good! Poor little lamb!
Thanks darling. It truly was and I look back now and think wow I am such a wuss but in the moment you always panic and think the worse of the situation.
Gosh poor little thing that looks like a nasty bump. And poor you must have had a nasty shock. It is so so horrible to see them hurt isn’t it. I’m glad she is on the mend and that no serious damage was done xx
Thanks hunny. Me too. I am impressed with how quickly baby skin heals. It is looking better each day for sure. Hoping no scarring though. Fingers crossed.
It is the scariest thing ever but it also shows us how much love we have for these little people! I’m glad Missy Moo is doing ok, but what a scary time for you all it must have been!